Pros and Cons to Arranged Marriages
There are many pros and cons that are associated with arranged marriages that take place in hindu families. One of the main positive aspect to this system of marriage is that there is a profound involvement of the family as it gives parents the power to make decisions over family issues and members. Due to the fact that they are the ones who are responsible to choose the prospective bride and groom, they would chose the most suitable partner for their children. They are also responsible in planning the details of wedding events and afterwards, also helping out with their grandchildren and any needs of the couple. However, the downfall would be the fact that not all family members would get along. An uneasy relationship between two members can cause possible tension in the family.
Another positive approach towards arranged marriage is the mutual understanding between the couple. In a hindu marriage, both the husband and wife have certain roles that they are expected to follow. It is expected of the women to cook, clean and carre for her family's needs. Her ultimate goal as a wife is to take care of her family matters. On the other hand, the husband is expected to work and and bring home money in order to take care of his family. It is also his duty to take care of his wife's needs. With this sort of mutual understanding of taking care of both partners' needs, is what really keeps the really keeps the relationship alive. However, when a couple may have little or no experience when administering an arranged marriage, there may be a lot of things that may not be communicated prior to the wedding. Although there is an understanding of their roles in the marriage, possible topics are left undiscussed but also certain fears and anxieties. For instance, the bride is expected to leave her family behind move in with the groom's family and she must learn how to approach and a build herself a place in her husband's family. Due to the fact that they are not close as of yet, this might pull her back to disclose her negative emotions to her husband. Therefore, this means that the sense of communication is still not as open in a love marriage.
Another positive aspect would be the idea of love after marriage. A couple is arranged based under the conditions of their religious background, education, and financial compatibility. Therefore, this means that there are differences that come between them. Hindus also believe that love is something to be grown and nurtured, so through their emotions and feelings they will be able to truly know each other and develop the love between them. In fact, the divorce rate in India is low as seven percent in areas where arranged marriages are common. The negative aspect to this is that, there is a possibility that maybe love may never develop between the two partners. Issues between the couple or families can be a result of some sort of tension and the failure of the development of love between the married couple. However, there is still a high possibility that the couple can lead a happy married life with the sense of affection, trust, mutual understanding and respect.
Another positive approach towards arranged marriage is the mutual understanding between the couple. In a hindu marriage, both the husband and wife have certain roles that they are expected to follow. It is expected of the women to cook, clean and carre for her family's needs. Her ultimate goal as a wife is to take care of her family matters. On the other hand, the husband is expected to work and and bring home money in order to take care of his family. It is also his duty to take care of his wife's needs. With this sort of mutual understanding of taking care of both partners' needs, is what really keeps the really keeps the relationship alive. However, when a couple may have little or no experience when administering an arranged marriage, there may be a lot of things that may not be communicated prior to the wedding. Although there is an understanding of their roles in the marriage, possible topics are left undiscussed but also certain fears and anxieties. For instance, the bride is expected to leave her family behind move in with the groom's family and she must learn how to approach and a build herself a place in her husband's family. Due to the fact that they are not close as of yet, this might pull her back to disclose her negative emotions to her husband. Therefore, this means that the sense of communication is still not as open in a love marriage.
Another positive aspect would be the idea of love after marriage. A couple is arranged based under the conditions of their religious background, education, and financial compatibility. Therefore, this means that there are differences that come between them. Hindus also believe that love is something to be grown and nurtured, so through their emotions and feelings they will be able to truly know each other and develop the love between them. In fact, the divorce rate in India is low as seven percent in areas where arranged marriages are common. The negative aspect to this is that, there is a possibility that maybe love may never develop between the two partners. Issues between the couple or families can be a result of some sort of tension and the failure of the development of love between the married couple. However, there is still a high possibility that the couple can lead a happy married life with the sense of affection, trust, mutual understanding and respect.
